I’m going to be honest – I’m terrible at working with others. It might be the trumpet player mindset, or maybe it’s just me, but when it comes to cooperating, I have serious reservations. Nevertheless, when you work online as an entrepreneur and avidly participate offline in the band, you have to learn how to work with others effectively. Otherwise, you won’t get very far.
How do you manage to pull yourself out of your “me” shell? It’s partly about courage and trust. You first have to learn to get rid of the “everyone is going to cheat me feeling” that comes with the territory of being human. After that, it just takes a bit of practice and determination. Oh, and you should follow these tips:
I’m not going to lie, I have only one close friend. By “close,” I mean we hug on a regular basis and I can actually tell her embarrassing things in person (as long as its dark and I can’t see anything). Nevertheless, she never lets me get away with anything, and forces me to open up. While I hate this at times, it’s beneficial. Why? Because you have to open yourself up to trusting people.
Cooperation is all about trust, and to build trust, try working on talking more openly with your best friends. They’ll help you out with whatever is going on, and you’ll learn how to work with people comfortably. After all, what are friends for?
If you’ve ever taken an easy class with group work, you know that nothing is worse than working with lethargic, unmotivated people. It’s a serious irritation, and you find yourself just as uninspired as the people around you. This is the kind of environment that makes me absolutely dread group or partner work.
Next time you have group work, be the project geek. Get involved, and work with people who also want to put effort into what you’re doing. You’ll find yourself having a lot more fun if you simply go with the flow and let the creativity flow. In addition, your stuff will be a higher quality. Be enthusiastic, and results will follow.
There are times when you really, really want something. A lot of times. However, to get what you want, you sometimes have to forfeit something else. Learning how to compromise effectively will bring you more success. If you want to see a scary movie, but your girl doesn’t then don’t fret about it. See the movie she wants and call up your best friend to go see the gore fest. Compromise allows you to cooperate and put yourself into better situations.
Working with others is pretty essential to success. If you want to be able to reach your true potential, you’ll have to learn to accept help from time to time.
How do you feel about compromising? Are you as anti-social as I was? Share your thoughts and experiences.